when this makes you laugh!
These days there are so many posts, articles, shows, etc that express all the guilt that mothers (and fathers) feel about their poor parenting (real or imagined). And though I am no stranger to that guilt, I also realize that I do some things right. There are three specific areas/stories that I try to keep in mind when I am having those “Bad Mom Days”
1) When my son was about 7 years old, we were driving home from school and he piped up from the back seat “Mommy, name your top 11 Heavy Metal bands”. It is important to note that he had recently started playing “Guitar Hero” as well as guitar lessons. Now even in my “younger” years, I was never a heavy metal fan (though The Clash is still one of my favorites) so I was hard pressed to come up with any favorites. But here’s the thing, I made sure that the next time he asked me that I could give him at least 7. Now, many years later, I have actually gained an appreciation for all kinds of metal (heavy, death, thrash).
2) Around the same time, he was also obsessed with Pokemon. I remember once when I was having an in depth conversation with him about the merits of certain Pokemon somewhere in public (probably Starbucks) and a woman commented to me “Wow, you know a lot about Pokemon!” to which I replied “If I didn’t, I would never have anything to talk to my kid about!” Because that is what he was into with at the time and if I wanted to have conversations with him, that was going to be it.
3) My son is now into a game called “Overwatch” which is a MMO by Blizzard that came out earlier this year. There are various “heroes” to choose to play as and they all have stats that you can view (there is more to it than that but this is the quick version). Often, when he is playing he calls me over to look at his stats. Now, I am a bit of a gamer mom (I do play World of Warcraft, occasionally, after all) but this game has no interest to me. However, again, he is excited about his stats and so I look at them, I discuss them, I praise them and then I go back to watching Real Housewives or doing laundry or whatever.
So what’s my point? My point is that this is the way he wants to interact with me and so I will do what I can to continue the conversation. I am not good at not getting mad when he doesn’t clean up his dishes or not getting frustrated when he doesn’t do his 20 minutes of reading a day (I mean it’s only 20 minutes!) or making sure his gym clothes are clean on Tuesdays and Fridays. I let him watch too much TV and he probably has too much sugar and we order pizza way too much. But I can talk to him about what’s important to him right now and that is Thrash Metal and Pokemon Go and Bastian’s stats and the merits of the Patriots third string rookie QB. And that makes me a good mom.
Please ensure that he wears at least 1/3 of the 22 pairs of underwear I packed for him for a 21 day session
Please make sure that cute girl I keep seeing in the camp blog pictures does not break his tender heart
Please make sure that he is not the one who gets in trouble the most but also that he is not the one that everyone else hates because he never gets in trouble
Please make sure that his special “pillow pet” pillow does not get ruined or he does not get made fun of for bringing it (though it has been cleverly covered with a pillowcase)
Please make sure he is safe when he is goes on the special like trips kayaking, a Red Sox game, and/or Boda Borg (whatever that is)
Please make sure that he puts sunscreen on, at the very least, when he is at the aforementioned Red Sox game and kayaking
and, please, if he does get a sunburn, let that be a lesson to him
Please make sure that he showers, puts on deodorant, washes his face daily or, at least, does so in a manner similar in frequency to the others at camp so he is not ridiculed for poor hygiene
Please let him call me, if not weekly, at least once, so I can hear his voice if only to hear him complain about the food
Please allow that he eats a vegetable and/or piece of fruit in at least one out of every 4 meals. I am not asking for kale or spinach but that a banana or apple crosses his lips at some point
Please let not lice or bedbugs return from camp with him
And, finally, please let him come back saying he had a great time and really wants to go back next year, but maybe for longer?
Put the water on to boil and cook pasta to al dente (don’t forget to add salt to the water!). I like to use Campanelle but any tube pasta will do
Meanwhile, melt half a stick butter (4 tablespoons) in a Dutch oven. Then add 1 and a half cups heavy cream. Heat over medium heat until boiling and then cook for about 3 or 4 minutes. Make sure you don’t let the cream boil over (I have done that and it’s not pretty). Basically, you want the sauce to thicken. Then add 8 ounces chopped prosciutto. If wanted, add about a cup or so peas. I defrost some frozen peas and add them into til it looks about right for me. When the pasta is ready, drain and add the pasta to cream sauce. Stir to coat. Stir in about a ½ cup grated Parmesan. Enjoy immediately. Serves about 4 or 5 people.
This is not the greatest leftover. It still tastes good but the cream tends to separate out. So just eat it all in one sitting and you won’t be sorry!